There are many reasons why a woman will break up with you. Usually, they are willing to forgive a few things if some other things are there.
Love is a rather fickle thing, honestly. And women will see a man through rose colored glasses at first, but then eventually, they will take them off and see the real you.
The good news is that there is a lot that you can to in order to prevent a breakup. But before we touch on that, let’s consider the top 10 reasons why women will break up starting with #10:
Reason #10: You’re Wishy Washy
Women hate a wishy washy type of guy. What does that really mean? A wishy-washy type of guy is a guy who has a hard time making a decision, even for the smallest things. And when he does make a decision, he second guesses himself and broadcasts to the world that he may have made a wrong decision.
Here’s a common example – if you two are hungry and want to go out to eat, if you put the burden of responsibility of making the decision on where to eat on her, she will secretly hate you. Women want to be lead – they don’t want to make decisions – EVEN THE CONTROLLING ONES.
There is an old wise saying that goes, “Make the decision, and then make the decision right.”
Make the decisions in even the smallest things when it’s up in the air.
Reason #9: You’re Too Needy
Women like a strong man. When you are too needy, you send her the signal that you are weak. Being too needy means that you have to have her in your life to be happy. That may sound great in the movies, but in real life, it doesn’t work.
Stop being dependent upon her for your happiness. Stop needing her for anything. Be completely whole without her. That is what she secretly wants from you anyway.
Reason #8: You Don’t Have a Life
The ironic thing about women is that they say that they want a guy who is caring, and loving, and kind, and all that, but in reality, if those types of guys go too far, women will feel suffocated, get tired of them, and leave.
You have to have your own life. Don’t change your life for hers. Blaze your own path. You have to realize that she could leave at any time and then what? If you built your life all around her, then you’re screwed if she leaves. You will be holding the bag and she will be off with another guy who has a life.
Don’t do that. Trust me. Just don’t.
Reason #7: You’re Too Nice
A nice guy thinks that being nice will get him the girl – but again, that only works in the movies and not in real life.
You have to have a backbone. I am not saying that you should treat her like crap and be mean. What I am saying is that you have to give up the charade of being nice in order to get the girl.
Most women who are seduced by nice guys will use them to go out to nice places, have all of their meals paid for, get the flowers, etc., but then leave. Why? Because they know that you’re just being nice in order to win her over. To women, you’re sleazy and shady – and not honest or truthful.
Surprise! That’s what women really think about nice guys. The solution? Get your own life together, be a bit more of a bad ass type of guy, and let the women come to you. You’re better than that. You don’t have to chase them – let them come to you.
This extends to other areas of your life too. She doesn’t want a nice guy in the bedroom – she wants someone who can be rough with her and dominate her completely (of course, you have to learn how to last longer in bed to do all those things to her).
Reason #6: You Don’t Stand Up for Yourself
Women will test you to see if you are strong enough to be a worthy mate. So, whether they want to admit it or not, they will test you in all kinds of different ways to see if you are man enough to stand up for yourself.
The problem is that if you set the precedent while you are dating of not standing up for yourself, she will take advantage of the situation in multiple ways. Soon, you will be spending money on things that have nothing to do with your benefit, and only hers. She will take advantage of you in every way that she can, and then dump your ass when the time feels right to her.
Don’t let her get away with it. Stand up for yourself.
Reason #5: You Let Others Walk All Over You
What is even worse to her than her being able to walk all over you without you standing up for yourself is you not standing up for yourself with others.
This will actually drive her nuts more than if you let her walk all over you. Why? Well, obviously, she will be thinking that at least she gets something out of it if you let her walk all over you.
So, if you have friends who tend to walk all over you, get new friends. If you have family members who walk all over you, stand up to them – even if it means having a strained relationship.
No one should walk all over you and make you feel less than. Stand up for yourself to everyone. Of course, be balanced about it and don’t bully others. That’s not good either.
Reason #4: You Don’t Take the Lead
Like I said, women want you to take the lead. She wants to feel that she can trust you to make good and wise decisions. If you turn to her to get answers all of the time, how can you expect her to trust your judgment when you don’t even trust yourself?
So, take the lead. You can do it. I’m not saying to never consult her on anything. There is a huge difference. Also, every women is different, so, proceed with caution.
There are many ways in which you could take the lead. You could surprise her with your choice in movies or by taking her out to check out that new restaurant. You could also surprise her with an amazing sex in a public space (just make sure you can last long enough for her to fully enjoy it.)
Just be balanced with it and you’ll be fine. But take the lead. Be the leader. That’s who you really are anyway.
Reason #3: She Doesn’t Feel Safe
Your woman may test you to see what you will do to her if you get really pissed off. She may push your buttons early on just to see what would happen.
Why? Because down deep, she wants to know that she is safe to be unreasonable and crazy around you. If she does something that really pisses you off and you yell at her or get physical, the deal is off – and it should be.
We are much stronger physically than women, so you can’t ever go there. If she does push your buttons in this way, do your best to remain cool and calm. If you can, go workout or take a jog around the block before you talk to her. This way, you can be logical, analytical, and see right through her dirty little scheme to push your buttons.
When you don’t react and still show her unconditional love anyway, she will feel safe.
Reason #2: Bad Sex
This is one of the biggest reasons why a woman would break up with you, but she won’t tell you about it. She will tell her next lover who is probably better, or her close friends.
Ouch. That hurts just writing it.
So, don’t let her down in the bedroom, or yourself down. Do all that you can do in order to take care of your body so that you can take care of her body in the sack.
How do you do that? Well, my step-by-step program for lasting longer in bed is a good start.
Reason #1: Lack of Money
It’s a sad fact, but most women are brainwashed since early childhood to marry a doctor or a lawyer, or someone with a lot of money. It’s still going on with young girls and women today. They don’t think like we do. They grow up thinking and dreaming that their knight in shining armor will save them from their wretched lives – and that they are powerless to do anything other than that.
So, if you don’t have much money, you’re pretty much screwed, and not in a good way.
Even the women who are making lots of money don’t want to guy who is making less than them. So, go out there and make a name for yourself. Today, in our digital age, there are many, many ways to make a great living that will give you money, prestige, and power.
P.S. Check out my guide if you want to know how to secure your relationship and never worry about break ups again.