Hey amigo, let’s keep moving on your journey to sexual mastery.
Most men spend much of their time searching for that ONE technique which will turn them into a sex God. That one position in bed, that one fingering technique that will give her mind-blowing orgasms and get her addicted to sex with you.
Well, I hate to break it to you, but great sex doesn’t work like that. Great sex is usually combination of confidence, technique, position, stamina and many other factors. Having said that, there IS one thing that is as close to a superpower in bed as is possible.
Although I have written a bit about dirty talking in my other bonus guide (How To Rock Her World In Bed) I feel that as a subject it deserves its own guide, and so I into much more detail here.
Knowing how and when to talk dirty is the closest thing to having a cheat code for her orgasm. Not only that, but it is the #1 tool you can use to turn a sexually inexperienced prude into your personal pornstar.
Why am I so confident in saying that? Well, you first have to understand that the largest sex organ both men and women have is not located between their legs – it’s between their ears.
I’m talking about the mind of course. The key thing here for you to grasp is that sex begins in the mind first. If you can make her orgasm in her mind, you can do that with her body – without any problems.
And the best way to do this is, you guessed it, by talking dirty.
Now, of course, this isn’t easy. There is always the danger of saying something wrong and instantly turning her off.
Then there is the fact that most beginners are so self-conscious that they break the cardinal rule of dirty talking – talk dirty with confidence.
There are two beliefs you must internalize before you start your journey to becoming a dirty talking master.
The first one is that there is nothing a woman wants more in bed than to be dominated by a strong, masculine man. Even though only a few would admit that, they crave this as much as they crave air and water.
The second one is that all women desire to be seen as sexual creatures. They want to be so irresistible that you can’t control yourself and MUST take them here and there.
If you internalize these two beliefs you will be well on your way to becoming a master at dirty talking.
That’s what this guide is here for – to take you from a complete newbie to a dirty talking pro.
How to Dirty Talk
The Preparation (Information Gathering)
Before you begin dirty talking, you must first know a few things.
Firstly, you must figure out her limits and establish some baseline. Some women love being called a whore/bitch/cunt during sex, some don’t.
You need to find out what turns her on, and more importantly, what turns her off. Keep a mental checklist of this information – it will come in handy during sex.
Next, and this is a really good trick – try finding out her sexual fantasies beforehand. Every woman has them, even though a few are shy and won’t admit it.
They fear that you will judge them and that your perception of them as sweet, innocent angels will be forever destroyed.
Here’s the best way to get her to open up. After you are done having sex and are lying around talking and being all gentle, steer the conversation towards sexual fantasies.
She must trust you enough to open up. If she doesn’t, nothing I describe here will work. Make sure that you build up that trust before you start doing anything below.
Try opening up first – describe one of your fantasies. Be sure to mention something vanilla and safe – save that Playboy-style orgy fantasy to yourself. Also, be sure that you mention a fantasy that you can do with her (and only her). So, no threesomes, no
other ethnicities, no celebrities, no porn stars – mention something like having sex in the park, or some light BDSM – like tying her up etc.
Afterwards, ask her about her fantasies. Because you opened up first, she will have an easier time opening herself. Memorize every little detail of that fantasy you can – like the checklist mentioned above, it will come in handy later.
Finally, the old adage – It’s not what you say but how you say it – rings true here. While words are important, so is your tone of voice, your confidence, and your body language (eye contact especially).
I could give you the best dirty talking lines in the world, but if your voice is weak, you are not feeling confident, and you can’t even hold eye contact with a girl – you would fail spectacularly.
On the other hand, if your voice is strong, you are exuding confidence, and you have a dominant eye contact – you could have the most basic lines that exist, and you will still have her dripping wet.
Generally, your voice should be as deep as possible, a little rough – like you can barely contain your desire for her.
The Right Structure of Dirty Talk
The best dirty talk follows a loosely based structure.
You start off slowly, and then you get more hardcore as you gain momentum.
The crucial thing in the beginning is to ease her into it – while some girls have more enough experience with talking dirty in bed, most of them are still relatively inexperienced and can be easily scared off.
Ever heard of the boiling frog anecdote?
As the story goes, if you put a frog into boiling water, it will immediately jump out. But if you put it in cold water, and then gradually increase the heat, it will not notice the increasing heat and it will be boiled alive.
The parallel with dirty talking is similar: If you start calling your girl a bitch/whore/cunt out of the blue, she will be immediately turned off and probably even angry with you. But start of easy and gradually increase the level of dirty talking, and she will be your personal little slut in no time.
The following structure is based on the yes ladder principle (see my other bonus, How to Rock Her World In Bed, for more explanation). The main gist of it is that you start slowly, and then, as you get positive responses, you escalate.
***Where to find ideas for dirty talking lines***
Let’s say you’re not very creative and you want some generic lines to start off with. You might be tempted to take a look at porn and use those lines.
That would be a huge mistake. The porn is made primarily for men, and so they use lines men think women want to her.
Sometimes they are right, often they are not. If you really want to know what turns women on, read erotica.
I know you probably balked at that suggestion, but hear me out.
There is a reason 50 Shades of Chicken Shit is so successful – and I can tell you its primary target audience ain’t guys.
Erotica to women is what porn is to men – an incredible turn on. Erotica writers are masters of their craft, so you can be sure that if there is dirty talking scene in the book (and there always is) it is precisely those lines women want to hear.
In fact, 99% of them are masturbating to those exact lines! So when she hears them in person, her mind is going to connect that pleasant feeling to your words – and she is going to cum faster than you ever thought was possible.
In general, dirty talking can be divided in statements and questions.
You should almost always start off with statements, then progress to questions once she is used to hearing you talk dirty to her.
Dirty Talk Statements
Why begin your dirty talking journey with statements? It’s pretty simple.
Because statements don’t require a response, they are a pretty low risk way to breach the subject and get her used to your voice during sex (if you never did anything like this before).
Not only that, but statements are also a fantastic way to guide her where you want her to go. Because you’re not asking her questions, her subconscious can’t say no to your suggestions.
Generally compliments, encouragement and positive feedback work best. If she’s doing something that you like, tell her that.
Examples of statements:
God you smell good
Look how hard you’ve got me
I’ve been thinking of being inside you all day
I love your ass/tits/whatever body part she is proud off You are driving me crazy
and a little bit more hardcore….
You are my sexy little bitch
Take that cock bitch
I’m going to fill you up with cum
And so on. There’s plenty of room to get creative here.
Describe Her Fantasy
Remember when you asked her to describe her favorite fantasy to you? Now it’s time to put that information to use.
You are now going to use all the little details she gave to recreate that fantasy in her mind – while you are having sex with her.
Start doing that during the foreplay. This is the best time to “set the scene” – to describe her imaginary surroundings.
Let’s say her fantasy was getting fucked in the elevator. You would begin, during foreplay, to describe the setting – entering into the elevator, waiting until everybody else got out, then hitting the panic button.
Describe the rush she is going to feel, how the elevator is going to shake when you are fucking her, etc…
You can make the most boring and mundane situations seem erotic if you nail down the delivery (depending on your voice tone and choice of words).
Whatever her fantasy might be; be sure to engage all her five senses.
What is she seeing; What is she hearing; What is she feeling;
In some cases – what is she tasting and smelling also.
The more senses you engage through your words, the more vivid fantasy are you creating.
If you can paint the right picture through your words, you can have her experience the most powerful orgasm of her life.
Ask Dirty Questions
Congratulations – you graduated from the Little Leagues. Now it’s time to go a step further, and ask her to participate in dirty talking.
Because now you are requesting her to participate, you are going to start off slowly. Stick to yes/no questions. Remember the boiling frog story? We want to encounter as little resistance as possible.
Examples of lines
You like that, don’t you?
Are you my little girl?
You like it when I fill you up, don’t you? You like my cock inside of you?
Basically any statement you make can be turned into a yes/no question. So if you notice that she responds extremely well to one or two statements you use that statement and turn it into a question. It’s simple as that.
This concludes our mini guide on dirty talking. You have now more than enough information to give your girl orgasms like she’s never had before – purely by talking dirty to her.
The only thing that is left is to put this knowledge to action. Follow the blueprint laid out in here and you will have her begging to be your little sex slave.
To your success, Big Mike
How To Talk Dirty To A Woman Without Feeling Uncomfortable
“You like that, baby?”
…How often have you said that during sex?
How often do you talk…at all…during sex?
If you’re reading this article, probably not much. That’s okay, most men don’t like to talk during sex. Heck, most guys don’t make any sound during sex.
Isn’t that kind of strange?
Sex is the most pleasurable activity in the world, so why is it we’re quiet while we’re enjoying it?
When you eat a good steak, you certainly make a few mmmmm sounds as you chew it up. So why not sex?
The truth is, most men don’t know what to say during sex. They’re scared. The only sex education they have is from porn, which is pretty graphic. So instead, they just freeze up and say nothing.
Today we’re going to change that.
The main reason (besides enjoyment) to talk dirty is to arouse your woman. Whether you’re talking during sex, or warming her up before, dirty talk is one of the best things you can do to turn on a woman.
I’m not going to tell you the exact lines to say. Any boring magazine could write that. Instead, I’ll go over guidelines that will teach you how to craft the perfect lines.
Sexting is “beginner’s level” dirty talk. If you don’t know what sexting is, it’s saying sex lines…over text message.
This is the definite starting point for every guy. If you aren’t ready to say sexy things in bed, texting is an easy way to experiment with sexting before you whip it out during actual sex.
There are two ways you can start sexting. The first is to slowly ease the conversation towards sex.
For example, if she says, “I can’t wait to see you later,” respond with something sexual, like “I can’t wait to get you in bed.”
She’ll pick up on the cue, and if she’s into it, she’ll go down the sexual path with you.
The second technique is to just dive in and start talking about sex. This is particularly useful if you haven’t seen or texted her in a long time. Just open up your phone and say something sexual, like “I’m going to do such dirty things to you later.”
This is a great line because it’s an open ended surprise…what kind of dirty stuff are you going to do? When? Girls love curiosity, and this unexpected text will leave them begging for more.
Now that you’ve started sexting, it’s time to actually start talking dirty. For the first few times, I want you to do it during foreplay.
The goal of foreplay is to warm your partner up for sex, so why not use wordplay to accomplish this?
Women need sufficient foreplay to get them ready for sex, and dirty talk is definitely one way to help get your partner soaking wet.
The good thing about talking dirty during foreplay is that what you say doesn’t even have to be that sexual. You can use softer lines such as:
“I’ve been waiting all day for this.”
“I ran home as fast as I could.”
These imply sex, but they aren’t actually dirty. Despite this, she’ll love the confirmation of how beautiful and sexy she is.
To get really kinky, whisper in her ear. Your soft voice will turn her on.
While you’re at it, lick the inside of her ear or bite the outside. The ears are very sensitive areas, and some women are extremely turned on by this.
Once the clothes are off and things are heating up, what now?
“What Are You Gonna Do About It?”
A major key to dirty talk is to talk about what you’re going to do to her…in the future.
This is a good technique for when you’re in the middle of foreplay (fingering her, eating her out, etc.) but not having sex yet.
You’re on the brink of penetration, about to have that sweet moment when you insert yourself into her, and, instead of doing it, you tell her how you’re going to do it.
That’s how you build tension that will drive her crazy: Tell her what you’re going to do, before you do it.
Remember, men are visual and women are mental. This means you have to build up the IDEA of sex in her mind. One way to do this, of course, is with dirty talk.
“I like THIS…”
If you’re still confused about what to say to talk dirty, talk about what features you like about her. It’s that easy.
“I love your voluptuous breasts.”
“Your skin tastes like dessert from the finest restaurant.”
“Your long legs turn me on so much.”
You get the point. Take what you like about her, and tell her how much you like it…but in creative way, of course.
What About Feelings?
The most important tip is to get in touch with your feelings.
I’m going to get a little emotional here…but the way to become a god level dirty talker is to say how you feel.
You don’t have to profess your undying love for this girl, but you should say exactly what you’re thinking, no matter WHAT it is, or how weird it is.
From something sexual like, “I love how your toes taste.”
To something romantic like, “do you remember the first time we had sex? It was like…”
Even if you think this is weird, don’t worry, she’ll appreciate the creativity. How many guys are going to say something unique and special like, “I love how your toes taste.” None!
Say what you think. It’ll pay off.
That’s all of my dirty talk tips, but before you go, I’ve got one thing to say…
Dirty Talk Is Useless
…that’s right. Dirty talk is completely useless, unless you can back it up.
There’s no reason to tell your wife or girlfriend how GREAT the sex is going to be…if you’re a terrible lover.
Thankfully, my friend Alex has put out the best sex guide on the market.
It’s called Revolutionary Sex, and is a must-read for every man.