The Internet is flooded with bullshit articles on what women find attractive.
You know, things like “be a great listener” and “show that you care”. It’s all rubbish.
Most of those articles are written by women and, while a few good tips can be found here and there, most of them are oblivious to the things that attract them.
If you only take and apply one thing from this article you will dramatically increase your attractiveness to women. Apply 3,4 or more, and you’ll have women knocking down your door in order to grab a piece of you.
Want to know what women find attractive? It’s these 11 things:
Be Fit (or Better Yet, Ripped)
While the pick up artists will tell you that you can be fat, bald and dress like crap and still get 6 feet tall blonde supermodels, I live in the real world.
And in the real world, jacked guys get more (and better) girls than the fat, sloppy WoW playing nerd. (no offense to cool WoW players out there…all three of you)
But aren’t girls grossed out by huge muscles?
I’d say if you stay natural and of the ‘roids you have nothing to worry about. (And if you think Ronnie Coleman is natural, I have an island I would like to sell you.)
Most of the guys who hate on muscles are skinny dweebs who haven’t spent one hour at the gym.
It’s too bad.
Because nobody is born jacked. Everybody can gain some muscle if they put in the work.
The best and easiest program for beginners is Stronglifts 5×5. It’s free so you can go there, read instructions, and be in the gym the very next day. In a couple of months, you will not be able to recognize yourself.
Be A Sharp Dresser
If there was ever a way to quickly and easily boost your attractiveness to women, upgrading your wardrobe is certainly it.
Unlike women, guys spend little time thinking about what they are going to wear when they go out – and it shows.
We usually just find the first thing that is relatively clean, put it on, and go out. No thought is given to fit, matching colors or overall visual impression of our wardrobe.
Now, I’m not saying you need to obsess about finding just the right shade of brown for your shoes, but you do need to learn some basic rules of style.
Check out Male Fashion Advice subreddit. It’s chock-full of great advice designed to make you dress better and become more attractive.
Be Ambitious (a.k.a. Don’t Be Broke)
A lot of guys misunderstand the relationship between women and money. They think (correctly) that women are attracted to money and they label them all gold diggers.
That’s only a half of the story.
Yes, women are attracted to guys with money. Those guys have more resources and can take better care of them. If you think this is unfair, and that they should be attracted to you regardless of your financial situation, I welcome you to go and hook up with an ugly, fat girl to show me just how virtuous you are.
Money is to women what looks are to men – plain and simple.
But don’t despair – they are also attracted to other traits rich guys usually have. The most important one of them is ambition.
And the good thing about ambition is that it’s not restricted to the wealthy. Anyone can be ambitious.
Start making plans and start thinking big. What did you always want to do, but never did?
When you think of a goal, put a deadline on it and start working. A deadline is what separates a goal from a wish.
Be Interesting (Have Some Hobbies)
If your hobbies are video games, LARPing, stamp collecting, Dungeons and Dragons, watching TV and the like, you might want to avoid mentioning them on a date.
On the other hand, if your hobbies are playing the guitar, photography, snowboarding, rock climbing, MMA, DJing and such, be sure to subtly bring them up in the conversation.
Like it or not, there are cool hobbies and boring hobbies. While there are women who might love you for your gaming prowess, your average girl couldn’t care less.
What is the difference between “cool hobbies” and “boring hobbies”? Cool hobbies usually grant you status: just think of a DJ in the club or a photographer shooting a model. They are in control and that makes them attractive to women.
Now, don’t just quit your hobbies because they are not attractive to women. They are making you happy and that’s far more important than hooking up with some random girl.
What you can do instead is just try out a lot of “cool” hobbies and find the one you enjoy doing. There are so many of them you are bound to find something that suits your temperament.
Be The Right Kind Of Funny
Yes, humor is important. But when most guys try to be funny they go the wrong way about it.
Well, most men use self-deprecating humor when flirting with women. That’s a death blow to attraction.
When you use self-deprecating humor you are constantly lowering your value in her eyes – something you definitely don’t want to do.
Instead, you should use the cocky-funny version and just playfully tease her.
Notice I said playfully – some guys take this too far and start verbally abusing girls which is idiotic and not something you should do, ever.
Be Tall (Or At Least Appear Like It)
Women like tall men. Shocking, isn’t it?
Now, if you are on the tall side, you can skip this section completely.
If you, on the other hand, are not completely satisfied with your height, there are several things you can do (and none of them include surgery).
First, date shorter women. Women like tall men, yes, but the most important thing is that they want their man to be taller than them. So if you’re 5’5 try to find a girl who is 5’3 or 5’4. This may lower your pool of potential girlfriends, but the ones that are left are a thousand times more likely to find you attractive.
Second, wear vertical lines. In choosing your T-shirts, suits, and dress shirts avoid those with horizontal lines and go for the ones with vertical lines. Vertical lines cause eyes to go up and down, which creates an illusion of height.
Third, improve your posture. Most of us these days are slouched and hunched over due to spending a lot of our times on a computer. Just by straightening your posture you will add an inch to your height – and feel better as a bonus.
Everybody says: Be Confident! Fake It Till You Make It! and other feel good advice. But how to practically apply those tips?
Here’s the thing: Confidence comes from experience.
Think about when you first started driving a car. You were super nervous and paid attention to every little thing.
As the time passed and your skilled increased, you grew more and more confident.
And now you don’t feel nervous at all when you sit behind a steering wheel. Your experience showed you that you can handle it, so you are confident.
It’s the same thing with girls. You need to go out and just do the work.
Want to feel confident when approaching? Do a hundred approaches and get dozens of numbers. If you know that for every 5 girls you approach you will get one number, you will get really confident really quickly.
Want to feel confident when asking her to come to your place? Ask a hundred women that question and figure out the best way to frame it.
Want to feel confident when….oh well, you get the drill.
I’m not fond of a lot of popular sayings, but here’s one I really like:
Familiarity breeds contempt.
Well, maybe not contempt, but certainly boredom.
If you are available 24/7 and drop everything as soon as someone ask you to do something, you will not inspire respect.
Because you indirectly show them that your time is of so little value that you can always jump when somebody says: Hop!
The answer, then, is to go the opposite way. Say no a lot more than you say yes. Don’t become a hermit, but don’t be available to indulge her every whim.
And I don’t mean fake it. If you are trying out new hobbies, working hard on your business or a career or going to the gym, you will naturally have less time to spend with other people – which means your time will become more valuable.
Be a Leader
Men are attracted to looks. Boobs, asses, pretty faces – we are all over that.
Women, on the other hand, are attracted to status.
A great way to display status is by being a leader.
You don’t have to run a Fortune 500 business or be a president to be an effective leader.
Look for opportunities in your communities where you can a) volunteer and take charge; and b) have a lot of cute girls around.
One other great way to be seen as a leader is by teaching. I don’t mean in high school or college, but finding a subject you’re an expert in and giving a class or tutoring.
Some examples are gym trainer, martial arts instructor, photographer, etc.
Be Seen With Other Hot Girls
Continuing with status-based attraction signals, there is no better to show off status than to be seen with other beautiful women.
If you are seen with hot girls by a hot girl you want to attract, she will start thinking: “Why are those girls with that guy? What’s about him that attracts them? I want to meet him.”
Now how to get those other girls in the first place? It does feel like a Catch 22 – you need hot girls to attract hot girls.
Fortunately, it’s not that difficult, but you will have to adjust your approach.
Approach those girls with a sole goal of making friends with them and then going out and being seen with them. Use one of the other methods mentioned in this article to find places or activities to approach them.
Be More Like Morgan Freeman (Develop A Masculine Voice)
Imagine a guy speaking in a high-pitch, nasally voice.
Now imagine an other guy talking in deep, Morgan Freeman-like voice.
Which one do you think sounds more attractive?
Exactly – Morgan all the way.
Unfortunately, as far as I know, there are no ways to actually deepen your voice.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t develop a more masculine voice.
There’s a couple of things you need to do.
Talk more slowly. If you’re a fast talker you’re sending a sign that you don’t believe your words are worth anything and that you are afraid you will be cut off at any moment. Take a deep breath and relax. Deliberately slow down your speech until it becomes a second nature.
Try to maintain an even tone. Doing so will add an air of mystery and you will become harder to read – which will add to your attractiveness.
Talk from your diaphragm. All of us talk from our throat – which is a weak way of speaking. Instead, try to speak from your belly – you will be surprised at how much your voice improves.
P.S. So you attracted the girl of your dreams…but can you keep her? If you can’t last at least 15-30 minutes in bed…not likely. Check out my Secrets To Lasting Longer guide to level up your sex game and keep her forever attracted to you.